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The 24 Most Stupefying Differences between Russian & Western Women

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You know it, I know it and the whole damn world knows it. Russian women are fucking hot and blow Western women out of the water. That’s one reason to prefer Russian women. But here are a whole lot of other reasons why Russian women are better than Western women (and also a few why they might not be).

I will tell you the my personal observations about how Russian women are different from Western women. I’ve been living in Russia for over 3 years now so I picked up a thing or two. You then go ahead and decide for yourself what you think is better…


1. Russian women are skinny – American women are fat

Let’s start the biggest cliché we can find, shall we?

But it's true y'know.

At least as long as we are talking about the young population, that is, women under 30. And let's be real here: those are the women that you're really interested in.

You'll struggle to find overweight, let alone obese young women in Russia because THERE ARE NONE. The competition is cut-throat and young women simply cannot afford to be fat. Otherwise, they'll find no man, which means they can't get married, which means they can't have children, which means they'll consider themselves an utter failure.

Compare that with America: "body positivity" has taken over, which means you can basically eat as much as you want and you're still "beautiful in your own way". 

Only that most normal men simply aren't interested in overweight and obese women that have no self-control. Revolutionary thought, I know.

Just in case you didn't believe me here are some pictures of female Russian students to to prove my point:

2. Russian women dress to impress – American women dress to repress

Surely a lot of you are aware of the old saying: in Russia women will put on heels to take out the trash.

It's not quite that strict but it comes pretty close. Appearance matters in Russia for both men and women but even more so for women. That's good news for us men because it means we are treated to a healthy dose of feminine clothing.

The harsh truth is this: in Russia I don't even bother seeing a girl again if she doesn't come adequately dressed to a date. That doesn’t mean she has to be dressed up to the nines (unless I tell her to).But being too casual is an absolute no-go.

Sounds harsh? It is. That's how things work in Russia.

In the West on the other hand, you can count yourself lucky if your date doesn't come in yoga pants. I know that is not so much the case in Europe. But in the US, it’s common. Let's not even talk about everyday clothes.

I remember an instance when I was at University of Santa Cruz visiting my gf back then. Pretty much ALL girls wear wearing sweat pants to university.

Compare this to how girls dress in Russia for university: 

3. Russian women take care of their appearance – Western women disregard it

You know what is gross?

A woman that hasn't gotten her nails done.

In Russia ALL women get their nails done. And their hair. And their eyebrows. And a lot more but those are already permanent changes(and not always necessary).

The point is that women care about their appearance as they should.

You're as beautiful as you feel? I don't think so. Other people WILL judge you. So better make an effort and look as good as you can.

Take Western women on the other hand. They'll come to a wedding not looking their absolute best. If you think that I'm being unnecessarily harsh you are wrong. You simply have not enjoyed the company of a beautiful woman, who put an effort into how she looks. Russian women understand the importance of this Western women do not.

4. Russian women have class – Western women have big mouths

I could tell you a lot of negatives about Russian women.

  • They’re emotional.
  • They’re lazy.
  • They are far too materialistic.

But hell, every damn time I go back to Europe it reminds me of the one thing Russian women have that (most) Wester women don't: class.

They just have that special something. They know how to dress, how to carry themselves, how to be sensual without being vulgar. Russian women know that you constantly are thinking about how to fuck them. They understand how to play the game and use this fact to get what they want.

Let’s compare this to English women for example. Yes, I know what I’m talking about because I spent 18 months living in England and Ireland.

  • They’re loud.
  • They’re way too fat but dress as if they weighed 45kg.
  • They’re unnecessarily drunk and start behaving like men.
  • They curse and cuss you.
  • They literally get into fights.

I could go on. My point is that a lot of especially Anglosphere women are the polar opposite of class. Why else would there be plenty of results when I search on google for drunk English women?

5. Russian women weaponized their beauty – American women de-weaponize themselves

Carrying over from the last point. Russian women just “get it”. They know that for all the lip service men pay, the first and most important factor for them in choosing a woman is her beauty. It doesn’t mean they agree with it but they adjust accordingly.

She just knows you’ll be fawning over her when she comes in that form-hugging dress with black stockings and red-soled heels. The easiest way to lower a man’s guard is to make him horny. Russian women understand this TO PERFECTION. She’ll use her beauty for her own best interests, which might not be your best interests.

Western women thing being beautiful is not necessary. They think men will only judge them based on their character and their achievements.


Most men won’t admit it but EVERY GUY judges a woman based on her appearance. That is the uncomfortable truth.

6. Russian women read classical literature – American women read TNZ

I downloaded a copy of Anna Karenina a few months ago.

So far, I haven’t even copied it to my Kindle.

That is how “interested” I am in classical literature.

But I could never tell this to a Russian woman. I might as well say she has a fat ass. It’s going to be equally insulting to her.

Ok, I’m slightly exaggerating here.

But Russian women are way more educated than your average Western woman. They absolutely love anything related to culture. You are never going to wrong if you go for the good ol’ theater or gallery date. I’m really not big on culture but it’s refreshing and pleasant to spend your time with an educated women.

Maybe you’re not the type for that though.

Maybe you actually like hanging out with women who know the freshest gossip from TNZ and Perezhilton.

Then you should look no further than the US because American women aren’t going to bother you with complicated discussions about classical literature or evenings at the ballet.

The choice is up to you.

7. Russian women are insanely jealous – American women don’t even get there

So far, I have been praising Russian women to heaven and back.

But I promised you negative points and here’s a BIG one.

They are JEALOUS.

And by jealous I mean insanely jealous.

“Who’s that girl whose Instagram pictures you liked?”

“When you are on the dance floor, all the girls around you dance like sluts and want to steal you.”

“I don’t want to go there, it’s full of sluts.”

All Russian women think that all other women are sluts and are constantly trying to steal their man. You will have to have an IRON FRAME if you don’t want to be constantly nagged and harassed by your woman about this.

The upside to this of course is that she behaves that way because she cares about you. It’s still quite annoying though. Especially if you are not used to jealous woman, you’re going to be in for a hell of a ride.

Western women are much easier to handle in that respect. Relationships in the West take much longer to “get serious”. You start fucking, do that for a while and then after some time you have “the talk”. Or the talk might not even come and she jumps on another dick if you haven’t done the job properly. The point here is that you’re much less likely to run into jealousy issues, at least early on in the relationship.

The good thing about that is that you can manage a relationship in the West with much less time and effort.

The bad thing is that you hardly will be able to call it a relationship. It might also go as fast as it came.

8. Russian women like assertiveness – American women will report you for that

There are some things that Russian women appreciate and some that are not that important.

And then there are a few qualities that you absolutely must have as a man.

One of those is ASSERTIVENESS.

You must be a LEADER at all times.

What they hate more than anything else are pussified men who ask permission and can’t make a decision. In her head she’s thinking about how such a man is supposed to raise her kids.

That is pretty much the opposite of Western women. There, you might be reported for misogyny, a hate crime, rape or whatever else the latest fad is, in case a girl decides that she doesn’t like you anymore and needs to get rid of you.

Of course, as we all know, Western women like dominant men as much as anyone else. But they would never openly admit that and the cultural trend is going very much in the opposite direction.

So if you’re a dominant, masculine man (or trying to become one), you’re well-advised to jump on my email list and follow my proven secrets about how to build strong relationships with Russian women.

9. For Russian women you have to provide – For American women too (dick that is)

Another non-negotiable quality in a man is being a provider and a bread winner. That’s where the “Russian woman equals gold digger” stereotype stems from.

You don’t necessarily have to be rich. But you have to show the willingness and potential to be able to provide for her and her potential kids later down the road.

Think of it this way. If a Russian woman is dating you, she is at least considering the option of having your babies. Maybe she isn’t going to openly say that but that is very much how Russian women think. In order to be considered “daddy material” you need to show proof of being competent at supporting a family.

That is absolutely not the case in the West. Western women are much more laissez-faire in that regard. Only because she is fucking you doesn’t mean that you’re eventually going to end up together. The only thing you need to provide is good dick and she’ll take it from there.

That doesn’t necessarily have to be better or worse, you simply have to recognize the game for what it is.

10. Russian women require hand holding – Western women are strong & independent™

There’s a very funny video on YouTube that is worth watching. This scene is particularly relevant (until 2:15).

Although they say be a gentleman, what they actually mean is that you are essentially a babysitter for an adult. Yes, that’s what it sometimes feels like to date some Russian women. Examples? Here you go:

  • They would rather die in the cold than to open the door themselves.
  • Choosing dinner from a menu can become a tour de force.
  • You literally have to hold their hand when you make them go empty the letterbox.

I’ve gone through all of these myself. Again, this can be both good and bad but you have to know who you’re dealing with.

Western and especially American women are the other extreme. They are strong & independent women™ who don’t need a man. God forbid you tell them how to dress for a date, that would be misogynistic at least and rape at worst. These self-sufficient empowered women™ don’t need a man’s helping hand.

Until there’s a cockroach in the kitchen of course…

11. Russian women are feminists in practice – Western women are keyboard feminists

Like any man with a brain, I’m no fan of feminism.

I want my women feminine, elegant and taken care of. As all normal man I recognize and embrace men and women being different with no one sex being superior.

A lot of Russian women have the exact same opinion like I do.

I work with a lot of women and they themselves express disagreement and disgust at Western-style feminism.

“Men and women are different and that is good! A man should be a man and a woman should be a woman.”

Few know this but Russia is actually a matriarchy. It was the women who, literally and figuratively, built up the country after the Second World War. Women were a big and important part of the work force.

Even though men hold many of the positions of power in government and business, it’s almost always the woman who runs business at home.

Yes, Russian women put a ton of effort into looking good and being a good housewife. But that does not mean they are not going to stand up for themselves or even appreciate men treating them inappropriately.

They know and accept the nature of men and women and work to their own strengths.

That’s why Russian women are the real feminists.

Western women want all the benefits of feminism without any of the downsides.

As soon as male qualities like risk-taking, physical strength or staying calm under pressure are required, they quickly shut up.

If you don’t believe me, ask her to remove the spider web from the ceiling herself the next time…

12. Russian women will cook, clean and massage you – Western women will expect that from you

“A woman’s job is to keep her man happy”.

Said almost every Russian women.

What sounds like blasphemy to Western women is completely normal for Russian women. They LOVE being a good wife. And that means keeping you as satisfied as possible.

If that sounds like paradise, it is (sometimes).

Not every single woman will wake you up with a BJ and an omelet. But the good ones do and there are plenty of good women out there in Russia.

With Western women, you will run into a bit more resistance if you ask them to do the same things.

Unless your game is really strong you’ll be labeled a sexist pig™, a fossil from a dying generation™ or toxically masculine™.

You’re of course always invited to wine and dine the women because that’s what “real men” do.

The bottom line is that if you’re a man who enjoys being treated like one, Western women might not be your optimal choice.

13. Russian women will expect you to pay – Western women will be offended by the offer

Until now, you might have gotten the impression that Russia is some sort of a paradise for men with beautiful women standing in line, only waiting to cook, clean and please their men.

It is (I’m only partially kidding).

This comes at a price though and that price is high.

As a man, you’re expected to provide and pay. Don’t expect a Russian woman to lift even one finger or contribute a single Ruble.

Her job is to look good and be pleasant. Your job is to pay.

Don’t come at them with splitting the bill. That is some nonsense Western concept that will leave a Russian woman thinking that you’re too broke or (even worse) too cheap to pay for her.

It’s not the size of the bill that matters. But you can never ever make a fuss out of it or complain about money. That is ONE OF THE WORST MISTAKES you can make with Russian women.

Which is a complete 180 in comparison to Western women. They will sometimes rip the bill out of your hands to pay for themselves and show how strong and indepent™ they are. Also in the West, there are plenty of women that appreciate a man taking care of them but they are definitely a minority.

14. Russian women will support your vision – Western women have their own vision

Halfway through this list, I’m sure you’re able to tell that there are a few recurring themes when it comes to what Russian women want from a man.

They’re drawn to strong and driven men but, more importantly, they are ready and eager to commit to him and support him. And by support I mean doing things that a Western woman would not want to do like stay at home, raise the kids, do the housework. Old school stuff. Your vision is their vision.

That is the polar opposite of Western women who put their personal development and career first. Your vision comes a distant second.

If you were to ask a Russian woman to move with you because you’re getting offered a better job, there’s a high chance that she’d say yes. A Western woman will be much more hesitant about it.

15. Russian women are happy to stay at home – Western women are offended to be left at home

Some of you guys reading will love these few points because it sounds like I am describing the perfect 1950s style housewife.

As with all of these points, there’s a heavy dose of generalization to this one.

But BY AND LARGE, Russian women are happy to stay at home, or at least not against it. Pretty much all of them dream about having children. Staying home isn’t a problem as long as she is busy with something.

Western women don’t want to stay at home longer than a few weeks even when they have children.

That’s not me saying one is better than the other. These are just two completely different approaches to life and what a woman’s task in life is.

Still ok for a lot of Russian women

16. Russian women want a family early – American women not

After the last point you could already tell what’s coming next.

Even today and even in big cities like Moscow and St.Petersburg (although to a lesser degree of course), there are a lot of women that are happy and eager to get married and pregnant at 21 or even earlier.

Marriage and early motherhood is still a societal norm in Russia, despite all the single mothers and high divorce rate. Reality clashes with people’s ideas and visions of “how things should be”.

Some girls want to “pursue a career first” but that rarely goes past the age of 25. Women that want to have kids (deep) in their 30s like in the West are the complete exception.

17. Russian women have no personal ambitions – Western women do

I’ve now hammered home the point how Russian women are family-oriented housewives and Western women are career-hungry ego players.

That’s a gross exaggeration but there’s some truth to it.

A better way of putting it is to say that Russian women rarely have any personal ambitions beyond being a mother. Yea they might have a hobby or some peripheral interests. But what they actually want to do is spend their husband’s money sit on social media all day and take care of their children.

Too harsh for you?

Go ask 20 Russian women how they would feel about such a life. Almost all of them would say yes.

Western women are different. They are very ambitioned. Sometimes even too much so. Staying home and having children early HORRIFIES them.

Both approaches can be pleasant and both can be annoying. It depends on your personal taste and on the specific woman you are with.

18. Russian women want appreciate seriousness – American women want to be entertained

I don’t often get the opportunity to interact with American women but when I do, boy do I notice the difference!

In Russia it is all about being A MAN:

  • Have your shit together
  • Make good money
  • Dress well
  • Be serious and respectable

Very rarely you can expect to have long-term, sustainable success with Russian women if you stray from these basic guidelines. Sure, you can pull the occasional one-night-stand. But we are looking for SUSTAINABLE SUCCESS and for that you need to think “serious and respectable”.

The only notable exceptions that I could think of are if you’re still young or in a position where such qualities would not be expected from you. If you’re 21 you don’t need to be ballin’ to get a Russian girlfriend. Same thing if you’re a DJ or an artist for example. These are occupations that have their own “niche” and women they attract.

It’s a totally different story with American women. Every time I’m talking to an American woman (which luckily isn’t that often), I get asked “why I am being so serious”. It’s like American women expect you to be their entertainment program. They’re also much more likely to fuck you simply because you were “funny” or “cute”. The contrast really couldn’t be any starker and I can tell why many men get annoyed by it.

With European women it’s not quite as bad. They take the whole dating game slightly more serious. With German women, for example, you should rather be too serious than too much of a clown. On the whole though, it’s still more casual than in Russia.

A good archetype to aim for

19. Russian women are cunning – American women are in-your-face

There’s absolutely no doubt that Eastern European in general and Russian women in particular are the most cunning women you can find. They are master manipulators and know how to play, use and exploit men for what they want.

How do they do this?

I noticed a couple of tactics.

They’re for example very good at trying to shame you into a certain behavior:

“A real man would never [X].”

That’s one of the most-used tactics I’ve observed with Russian women. What she is actually saying is of course “I don’t respect you enough that you can ask me to do X”. And a lot of men let them get away with it.

This one is similar but with a different spin:

“Russian women don’t do that OR In Russia, it is normal that girls […] OR I am Russian woman, I don’t do […]”

The translated version is “I am not going to do that stupid foreigner, now go and buy me something”. But they soften their rejection with “culture” to keep you in the loop.

Russian women use these and many other tricks to gain the upper hand in a relationship. That is why they are so attracted to men who are able to resist and withstand their emotional behavior and manipulative tendencies. They know exactly what they want and how to get it.

Western women are not as well-versed in scheming. They’re also much more outspoken and direct. If you anger a Russian woman, she’ll silently put poison in your morning coffee one day. A Western woman will cuss and threaten you for weeks before running to the police and crying rape. This is an exaggerated example but you get the point.

A Russian woman is like a spy: scheming and manipulating in silence.

A Western woman is like a bouncer: often huge and might even try to throw a punch at you.

Don't let this be you

20. Russian women in their 30s become looser – Western women more stuck up

One MASSIVE difference I noticed was how different attitudes between Russian and Western women in their thirties are.

Western women on the whole make themselves less sexually available because “their party days are over” and they want to find a real man™. You’ll have to deal with loads of bullshit if you want to get in her pants.

But Russian women actually become (somewhat) “easier”. A very common scenario for a Russian woman in her thirties is that she's married and cheating on her husband. Another one is that she's divorced and somewhat disillusioned from her failed relationships. Of course, she’s still looking for “a good catch”. But if you’re not that type of guy and she still likes you, she’ll still fuck you and shut up about it. A Russian woman in her twenties will be much more deliberate with her partners. 

21. Russian women think long-term – Western women think short-term

Yet another MASSIVE difference between Russian and Western women is the relative absence of YOLO lifestyle.

In the West, girls live it up in their twenties and decide so “settle down” in their thirties when they’re too old to party.

In Russia, there’s almost no such thing. In Moscow and St.Petersburg the women are somewhat more relaxed about their relationships. But even there, most are looking for a boyfriend even if they do not want to marry early. The principle of sleeping around massively is rather uncommon. Women are always thinking long-term. They might be seeing multiple guys but that doesn’t mean they’re also fucking all of them. Most of the time when a Russian woman has committed to one guy, she won’t be jumping beds quickly.

So “casual dating” and friends with benefits is a concept that exists in Russia but it’s not too common.

Non-existant in Russia

22. Russian women start cold and finish hot – American women are the other way round

Initially, Russian women CAN be cold. This stereotype is actually totally overplayed because in my experience most girls aren’t cold at all. They might not be bubbly and excessively enthusiastic but most are at least curious.

Either way, you will have to warm them up and court them a bit. But once you’ve unlocked the gate to a Russian woman’s heart, she’ll be very affectionate and loving.

With Western women there’s no courting and warming up. They like you or they don’t like you. If she’s into you she’ll be enthusiastic from the start and it will be smooth sailing. But only because you had sex that doesn’t mean that her behavior or attitude towards you is going to change. Sex does not equal more affection.

23. Russian women will make you wait for sex – Western women not

Many newbies to Russia are surprised that having sex with a woman takes a considerable amount of time and effort. Their sense of fashion and their flirty behavior might suggest something else but Russian women aren’t easy to bed. I’ve had instances when I went on 6-8 dates with a girl before sleeping with her. This obviously varies wildly but getting sex fast isn’t easy.

Different story in the West, isn’t it?

It seems completely absurd to see a girl 6-8 times before she wants to sleep with you. Hell, even 3 times seems a high bar.

In Russia sex is harder to get than a relationship. In the West a relationship is harder to get than sex.

Not Russian but she could be...

24. Russian women are made for sex – Are Western women?

All that being said, I can safely say that Russian women are absolute MADE for sex. Especially the top-tier women know how important their bedroom skills are so they really put an effort into learning how to please a man. 9 out of 10 women you’ll fuck in Russia will be at least good, most even very good.

It’s hard to make a comparison here without making overgeneralizations. But my experience was that ON AVERAGE Russian women “snap” a bit more when you have sex with them for the first time. Maybe it’s because of the discrepancy between how they want to and feel the need to be sexy and pretty all the time and not being able to act on their instincts.

That becomes most obvious when they drink. Give a Russian girl a few drinks and she will become VERY horny. Naturally all this built-up energy needs to be released at some point and it really shows in the bedroom.

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