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10 Secret Insights about Russian Women and Sex

Russian women and sex

Of all the guides I wrote for this site this is probably my favorite one. Sex and Russian women belong together like strawberries and cream. Both already delicious but together they're a killer combination. I'll break down all I've learned about Russian women in the sheets in all my years living in Russia. Get your hands out of your pants and pay some fucking attention cause you're about to learn a few lessons that will fix your broken sex life.


One point before I even start with this

No matter how much you read and theorize, nothing replaces practice.

I learned all that I know through hard practice. And no matter how much I personally read and learn from men that are more successful than I am, I also only learn through practice

You can also not read this article at all but instead go out right away and start practicing right away. Do that and tell me about your experiences. That will be infinitely more useful than not implementing what I tell you.

But if you want to have an unfair advantage then read my 10 secret insights about Russian women and sex.

Good luck trying to find these anywhere else. You can't. No one talks about these honest truths like I do.

1. Russian women are made for sex

I don't know if there's a female population thats more idealized and connotated with sex than Russians. Brazilians might come close but only close. In the old Bond movies the “female villains” often used to be Russian femme fatales that tried to seduce Bond, only to fall for his superior charm.

Not saying that it’s laudable but Russian women also often work as strippers or sex workers abroad. In fact, I had clients come to Moscow and be disappointed when I tell them that prostitution is technically illegal in Russia.

“But it’s the capital of whores”

Yea that’s your biased perception right there.

So where does this perception come from?

I’d say it’s mostly down to Russian women accepting and embracing their role as women. Russian women are still women in the most primal sense. They care a great deal about very female things like looking your best, keeping your man happy and all the other things I talked about here. Since we're men and we can't really think past 12cm heels and stockings, our male brains over decades developed this connection that Russian women = sex godesses.

Luckily, this perception totally holds true most of the time. I don't know if it's something in the water or they're getting seperate sex ed or what. But 4 out of 5 times sex with a Russian girl will be fire. I've been living here for quite a while so I might be biased already But I cannot remember other nationalities being as overproportionately talented in the sheets like Russian women are. In my group of friends here we have an inside joke about how Russian girls never disappoint to fuck you good.

They (literally) know which buttons to press and how to satisfy a man. The hotter the woman, the more likely she is to be exceptionally good. These women know that their beauty is their primary resource so they use it unaplogetically and ruthlessly. Fair enough. 

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2. They don't give it up easily

If you think you're in for a sexapalooza when you fly to Russia then I'll have to disappoint you. 

I mentioned in plenty of my other articles how Russian women aren't easy at all. Yes, they're fucking good at fucking. But that doesn't mean you'll get there fast. Most of the time you can brace yourself for plenty of dating and actually getting to know the girl. Most men who just want to score quickly will pass when they're faced with this situation. Well, that was why she did it in the first place. 

There are a few rules of thumb that you can follow in terms of how to get laid fast in Russia:

  • Moscow and St.Petersburg are their own universe and much more Westernized and liberal in that sense.
  • The smaller the city, the higher the probability that girls are conservative. "Crazy travel adventures" will be the exception to the rule.
  • Bars and nightclubs are (unsurprisingly) your best best for fast sex.
  • Hipster girls in electro clubs will be easier than dolled-up princesses in high-end clubs. Unless you can provide cocaine, then all bets are off.
  • Girls from the Caucasus region are the toughest to crack. Very rarely you'll find an "open-minded" girls from that region. 
  • A few selected holidays like New Year's Eve, Halloween and International Women's Day are pretty much a free-for-all for experienced playboys.

Generally though, don't expect fast success unless you're surpremely good with women and ideally even speak some Russian.

3. There is a growing BDSM & Kink subculture

Those who haven't should read my post on sex parties in Moscow on this topic.

Especially Moscow and St.Petersburg nowadays are hard to distinguish from your average Western city. Pretty much all trends that catch on in the West are imported to Russia with a slight delay (luckily except for feminism so far). 

So don't be surprised when you see a lot of chokers, collars and other fasion accessories that used to be an exclusively BDSM thing but now are part of the mainstream. The Kremlin might promote one thing but deep down Russian are pretty perverted and very much into this. It isn't as big as in the US but only during my time in Moscow, the attendance at kinky parties multiplied. The same is true for swinger parties.

I'm not particularly into this scene but if you're interested you won't have to look too hard to find it. In fact, your best bet for "easy sex", apart from prostitutes of course, would be swinger parties.

And no, don't ask me where you can find them cause I don't give a fuck.

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4. Booze makes Russian women very, very horny

This is hardly groundbeaking insight but booze makes women want to fuck.

But with Russian women it's a whole other level. Booze turns ice queens into cock-hungry maneaters. I haven't seen this to such an extent with other women. At least this disparity.

That doesn't mean all the women all the time act like this. It doesn't even mean it will happen every time she's drinking. But rest assured that if you're seeing a girl kneading her titties in the club, she's down for some fun. 

 By and large, Russian women can keep their liquor pretty well. You won't see fights or girls pulling out their tits or other trashy behavior. But if you happen to be a good-looking male, you will get attention from girls extremely fast. The biggest difference between a sober and a tipsy Russian girl is that the latter won't have any inhibitions about communicating that she wants to fuck you. She might not do it then and there but she'll be very candid about her intentions.

Take notes and implement this knowledge when you get the chance to...

5. Russian women on holiday are...

...much, much easier than at home. 

Again, not all women are easy all the time. But even Russian girls say Russian girls on holidays are sluts. It's not exactly a secret. 

They're probably not more so than other nationalities. But the disparity between how available they are at home and on holidays is the biggest. American girls are easy all the time. Traveling to Cancun doesn't make a big difference to them. A bikini won't turn Middle Eastern women from a devoted housewife into a free-thinking cumslut. Russian women though are "angels" at home but not so much abroad.

Every veteran playboy knows the hotspots where Russian tourists go on holidays. If you don't, you need to read this

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6. Russian women are faithful (to a degree)

I hope you're not rubbing your hands or your dick already after what I told you so far.

The truth is this: Russian women are generally very loyal and devoted, They won't go dick-hopping in their 20s. They get one long-term boyfriend then the next then the next. Their YOLO phases are very short and mostly confined to one or two holidays in Cyprus or Thailand. If she respects and loves you she won't cheat on you.

BUT! There's always a but.

If you don't keep your woman in check.

If you don't sexually satisfy her.

If you're in her eyes not the best deal she can get.

She will cheat on you mercilessly. She might not even leave you. If you have a good job and take care of her lazy ass then she has no incentive to do so. But rest assured that she will have a few dicks on speed dial to make up for your non-performance in other aspects.

I've known, seen and experienced plenty of very fit Russian women in their 30s and 40s who are fit and are keeping 2-4 men entertained without batting an eye. Her husband is her ATM. She might have a younger lover. Maybe another dude abroad. And she's still hitting the club.

These women are still very fit for their age. In other countries they'd pass as stunners but competition is fierce in Russia. She knows her value on the "open market" wot'ndlu be as high so she cheats instead. Plus, her husband is doing the same with younger women so it's a fair trade.

Might sound fucked up but that's the bare-bones reality of Russian relationships.

7. There's no friends with benefits culture

Friends with benefits isn't an expression that translates to Russian. There are a couple of substitutes for it but no fixed and popular expression like in English.

That's because the whole concept is still pretty alien to Russians. Yes, they sleep around occasionally. Yes, you can keep a full roster of women that will fuck you. But depending on the age and character of the woman, you will have more or less problems with covering up your trail if you want to do that.

Casual dating as in fucking with no questions asked isn't something that women generally will accept or, god forbid, propose. You'll get slapped with relationship talk sooner rather than later. You'll get a huge jealousy scene when she busts your ass with another woman.

Although cheating is deeply engrained in the culture, Russian women really only make their peace with it in their 30s. Girls in their 20s will often try to lock you down, espeically if you're a good catch. Depending on your skills and your status, you will or won't be able to keep several girlfriends if you wish to do so.

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8. Blowjobs aren't always a thing

When I first arrived in Russia, I repeatedly used to run into the following problem.

I'd meet a girl, take her home and get to work. But she'd be adamant about not wanting to suck dick.

Pardon me??

With your pants down, it takes a hell of a man to refuse sex over something like this so I grudgingly caved when they didn't want to do it. But I found it very odd. Especially because in Western countries blowjobs are considered to be "not a big deal".

"well I just sucked him off" 

"oh it was just a beejay"

"I'm not going to fuck you but I can suck you off if you want to"

Implying like a blowjob is like ordering an espresso. You won't hear this from a Russian woman ever.

Ever since, I've had this problem less and less. Still, when I talked with other guys, it turned out that I wasn't the only person who noticed this.

A few weeks ago I came across an article from an ex-escort girl. She mentioned how after her retirement she did not feel obligated to suck off a guy she was dating because he was "not doing enough" (or some other dumb female logic). I've heard something along the same lines from women as well so it might really be something that certain women "save" for their loved ones.

Weird nonetheless. 

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9. Sex doesn't have to be a crazy fuckfest

If so far I gave you the impression that she'll put on a pornstar show once her clothes come off, then I wholeheartedly apologize.

Russian women really love sex

But they love pretty standard, dominant sex. It's not like all women all of a sudden are into being tied up and get stuff shoved up everywhere (although you can get them to like that fast). Dick her good and deliver a solid, dominant performance with some basic things like spanking and hair-pulling. That's totally fine and more than enough to satisfy most women. There's no performance pressure to completely ravage them Pierre Woodman-style.

If you want to though, a lot of women will down for that too.

10. It goes down on the dachas

I have to make a confession here.

One of my greatest regrets and biggest shortcomings is that I've never gotten invited to a dacha party.

Go ahead and crucify me.

It's probably because I don't bother to make a lot of friends. But I know for a fact that the craziest shit goes down on the dachas. I've heard from many a girl unrated stories from dacha parties. Full-on orgies rarely happen in the club but you have a good shot of making it happen in the dacha.

Dacha parties are pretty much the Russian equaivalent of "going to vegas". If your woman ever announces she's going to the dacha with "her friends", you better fuckin triple-check there are no guys around and they won't have any possibility to call any for backup. I'm not even joking it.

If she is taking men with her to the dacha, she will get dicked out, you can take that to the bank.

In fact, Russia's most famous fake rape claim was from an underage girl at a dacha party. The short version is that she got too drunk and fucked one guy first, then the other and decided to change her mind the next day. She claimed rape and the guy had to guy to prison over this. So this isn't a thing that only happens in the West. Google Diana Shurygina for more info on that story.

If you happen to be invited to one then I'm waiting for your report cause you're a step ahead of me on this one.

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